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Accepting many Truths

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One of the things I have been experiencing lately is that there can be more than one way. More than one truth. That what we think is the right way doesn’t make the other way wrong. Let me give you a couple of examples.

Chogyam Rinpoche was a leading Tibetan Buddhist teacher I remember when I first heard about him. A friend was telling me that he was a great teacher but he was openly drinking, doing cocaine and sleeping with some of his students. I felt completely discouraged to read his books or learn more about his brilliant legacy. Recently I did a course and one of the required books was his book “Cutting through Spiritual Materialism” and my view completely shifted. It was not either or. He drank and was a great teacher. Why couldn’t he be both?

I think most of us have a hard time with this concept of accepting many truths. This happens usually when we feel very passionate about something. But what if there is no right or wrong? Just something in between.

Our partners are the best teachers- because we are constantly right and they are constantly wrong and there is only space for one truth in the table.

My husband and I have been talking about having children. He doesn’t want them yet for a number of reasons. All those reasons sounded like excuses to me and what was real for me was the fact that I’m getting older.

I have done a ton of internal work around it. So much so that I can share this with you today. I did Tonglen, the practice of breathing somebodies pain and giving them our love for like a month. Being open to breathe in his reality has shifted and given a depth to our relationships we didn’t have before. I remember once sitting just listening to him talk, which is pretty unusual because as you can imagine I'm the talker and when he finished he hugged me and thanked me so much for listening. I really hadn't listened to him before that day.

 I have created space in my heart for both of us. One of the things he believes is "the world doesn’t need more people, we are very happy and don’t need anything else in the world" and I believe "we are so happy we should share our love and the world needs more good people" (which is what I hope we can make) 

But what if we are both right? As I give this space in my life to hold more than one truth and trust deeply. I’m sure things will settle the way they need to settle and it just doesn't feel as painful anymore. 

So my invitation today is to create space in your hearts and minds were two ideas that might contradict each other can hold a place. Try skipping the labels.

xx

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Wisdom of the Body

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Today’s episode is all about the wisdom of the body and how we can calm our mind by using our body as an instrument.

You will learn:

-          How body movement began for me

-          How to quiet the mind using the body

-          Using the body as a tool for insight and wisdom

-          Getting to know the body to aid the mind.

Practice: Play a song as loud as you wish and start moving your whole body, you can dance, jump or act like a crazy person. Whatever feels good. When the song stops playing, stand and freeze there dropping into your body if something comes up just acknowledge it. Don't try and analyze anything. 

If you try it out send me a comment. Love hearing from you guys. 

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What we do matters

Every decision we make from the moment we wake up, to the time we go to bed is a vote towards something. It says I stand by this. Where we buy our clothes, the food we eat, the television we watch, where we exercise. Every decision as small as it may seem is supporting an industry.

Think of the fact that Walmart carries organic produce. They do this not because they are concerned of the food we eat but because we voted that organic is important.

The singers that say I wouldn’t be here without my fans, they’re absolutely right. The music we listen to supports the artists. The tv we watch supports the actors. We need to ask ourselves- Who we are supporting?

Instagram influencers are a great example because brands pay them to “influence us” and what are they influencing? What to wear, what not to wear, how to take a selfie, how to travel in style, how to do a Yoga Pose while standing on a train track.

So what if instead, we voted to follow the healers, those that teach compassion and kindness in areas of the world where those words are unheard off. What if those were the “influencers” of our time and brands would pay them to go and help.

There is a quote by the Dalai Lama that says “if you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito”

Because we have a vote and our vote matters. The way we live our lives needs to align with the way we want to the world to be. Before we go to bed we should ask ourselves – Did I do something to make the world a better place? And maybe that means not watching tv, recycling a bag or using a bike to get to work

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Yoni, Heart and Mind Power

The beautiful Elise Carr is on the Toolkit for Life today! She is the voice behind Stella Muse and the pioneer behind "Yoni, Heart and Mind" Awakening from within through Sacred Guidance, Sacred Sexuality, Spirituality & Soul. 

On this episode we are talking about:

- What is the Yoni?

- How we can awaken our power

- Healing the space of the Heart

- The cycle of giving and receiving

- Pure Love- what it is and how to access it 

- Attracting people that meet us where we are  

- A practice for clearing our chakras

- Putting down our shields

- Sitting down with our feelings 

- A centering practice to opening up and creating a channel of conversation with ourselves 

And much, much more

To learn more about the work of Elise you can find here: 

http://www.stellamuse.com/

Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I'm so grateful to have you here and would love to hear your thoughts on this episode you can leave me a comment below. If you liked this episode, please share it with someone you know that might benefit. You can also support me by leaving a 5-star review on iTunes so more people can learn about Toolkit for Life. 

 

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Pausing

Couldn’t be more excited to have you join me for Season Two of the Toolkit for Life Podcast! If you are new to the podcast game, let me change your life. A podcast is basically a radio show that you can get online, so you can listen anytime you want.  You have two options: You can listen to a podcast through the website (by clicking on the link) or you can listen on your smartphone (which is super convenient to do while driving)

If you have an iPhone use the Podcast App it’s a purple app (it actually comes installed on newer devices). In the Podcasts app, you search for Toolkit for Life and then hit subscribe.

 If you have an android or tablet download try Stitcher app from Google Play.

Some of my favorite podcasts are:

-          Optimal Daily Living

-          Dear Sugars

-          On Being

-          Magic Lessons with Elizabeth Gilbert

-          Toolkit for Life (thought I should mention myself)  

During this first episode, you will learn what’s a spiritual trap is, how we get caught up in the fixing and seeking and the power of pause.

Pause exercise

Take three mindful pauses during your day where you stop what you are doing and become fully present. Use your senses- what do you hear, see, smell, taste.

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